Thursday, August 13, 2009

Tender Mercies

Jordan took his laptop on the plane with him... it had all of their pictures on it (plus a lot of work stuff). We have been praying that the clean-up crew would find it. THEY DID!!!!
The Lord is in charge.
We are grateful for this tender mercy.

Words Words Words

Arlene here:
We want to paint a picture with words.
No - we want do more that 'one picture is worth a thousand words' we want a BIG FAT BOOK of words.

YOUR words.

What do you remember from being 4?
Or 2?
Or 3 months?
Not much, huh?

So we want to create a book.
With YOUR words.
Here is how.
Write memories, recollections, specific details....all the little things.
About Jordan.
I remember one time....
He always.....
Oh, once we were....
Those memories...lots of them.
Can't you just see this big fat yummy book full of them?
It doesn't have to be fancy - on the back of an envelope - scrawled on a napkin.
We will take it just as it comes tumbling out of your memory.

What was his smile like?
His laugh?
What do you know that made him happy?
Was he ever into mischief?
Did you ever hear his testimony?
Was he silly?
What 5 words best describe him?

Details....write in detail, his walk, his look, the way his eyes twinkled, the way he interacted with his children.
HOW WAS HE WITH HIS CHILDREN?
Oh, you can be sure, Shelley will share but we want more...a Matthew - Mark - Luke - John kind of more.
But this will be every Billy - Susan - Jon - Mary's record

Write write write
Words words words.
Then send them to me.
Email: arlenemccomas@gmail.com
Snail mail: 12609 East 25th
Spokane Valley WA 99216

You have the opportunity to write a book.
A BIG FAT yummy wonderful book.
That will be read and read and read.
By an audience of three.
Chantel, Mason, Landon.
You can BE their memory.

Now start...while the ideas start coming - start making notes, compile you thoughts, record your memories - ideas.
Words - words - words.

p.s. If you attend either the Memorial service or funeral..will you also do the same?
What were your impressions?
How did you feel when you drove up?
How did those three little children look to you?
(Imagine them reading your words at 12 - 14 -18)
They will be precious words.
What was the weather like?
Who did you see there?
What did the spirit whisper to you?
How do you see the hand of the Lord in all of this?
How was their Momma?
What feelings do you have about their Momma.
Did you feel different when you left than when you arrived?
Why?
What?
WRITE WRITE WRITE.
Lots of different people.
Lots of different words.
A wonderful gift you can -
Give to Jordan -
For his little family.

Thank you.

ALSO: Please help us spread the word.
Do you have a Facebook page or Blog
Please post this.
"Do you know someone that knew someone that knew Jordan Mingo (married to Shelley Morgan). He was killed in a plane crash. We are collecting a book of memories for the surviving children. (4,2 and 3 months) Please go to www.wherearethemingos.blogspot.com for information on how you can contirubte.
Thank-you"

Wednesday, August 12, 2009

A Memorial for Jordan

The Young Men came and put 23 American flags in Shelley's yard.
Thank you!

I just feel paralyzed today

Arlene here:
Does anyone find themselves like I am?
I live in Spokane Washington.
The Mingos live in Idaho and Utah.

I feel a million miles away.
I feel like I am walking through cold molasses.
I can't imagine the grief Regina must be feeling..losing her two sons and a husband.
How are all those Mingo girls?
Losing a Dad and both their brothers?
And of course, our Shelley, losing the love-of-her-life and the Daddy to her little ones.

I feel paralyzed with grief...walking from room to room - not able to think, wondering how in the world could people be going to work and go shopping at Walmart?
I want to yell out my window.
"THERE IS A WORLD OF HURT - going on here."
"Do you know what has happened?"
"How can you be normal?"
"How can you laugh?"
How can life go on?

Of course we know it will.
We know we will find meaning and peace.
We know there are and will be experiences that will make 'going on' possible.

But.
Just for now.
Just for a little while, can I just lay on the floor
curled up in the fetal position
with a blanket over my head
and cry my face off?

I don't know the Mingos...except Jordan.
But I feel their pain, is that possible?
I feel their pain...right here in the middle of my chest.
It makes taking a deep breath hard.
I has taken a hold of my heart and mind and thoughts and rendered me useless to any sort of daily function.
I am so so so sorry.
I am so so so sad.
As..........I am sure you are, too.

And hey, if you had a spat with someone you love... go fix that, 'k?

Thank You

A big thank you goes out to the crew who found the crash site.
These pictures were taken from about 1000 ft in the air.

From Ty, Kyla, Marissa and Chandler Bodily


Dear Shelley..and Mingo family,
In this challenging time, our thoughts keep going back to Elder Hollands talk "None Were with Him" in the last General Conference. These words give us peace.

"Brothers and sisters, one of the great consolations of this Easter season is that because Jesus walked such a long, lonely path utterly alone, we do not have to do so. His solitary journey brought great company for our little version of that path—the merciful care of our Father in Heaven, the unfailing companionship of this Beloved Son, the consummate gift of the Holy Ghost, angels in heaven, family members on both sides of the veil, prophets and apostles, teachers, leaders, friends. All of these and more have been given as companions for our mortal journey because of the Atonement of Jesus Christ and the Restoration of His gospel. Trumpeted from the summit of Calvary is the truth that we will never be left alone nor unaided, even if sometimes we may feel that we are. Truly the Redeemer of us all said, “I will not leave you comfortless. [My Father and] I will come to you [and abide with you].”"

Shel, we know the Lord will not allow you to carry this cross on your own. He will strengthen and uphold you---He has promised He would!

From Tyler and Kumari Marshall


Jordan and Shelley Mingo.

Dear Shelley,
When you told me you were pregnant with Landon, you explained that you and Jordan felt that you should not wait to grow your family. I'm glad that you followed those promptings and established your eternal family. The day of your family's reunion will be so much more full of joy with those adorable little ones. It is good to know that we are always being guided and watched over.

My family and I are not strangers to the pain and emotions you are feeling now having lost 3 brothers, one having been a young husband and father to a 7 month old son. This week was the 11th anniversary of their car accident that occurred in Idaho while they were traveling from Washington. I feel as though I am watching your family go through the same tragic roller coaster ride as we did It is still hard all these years later but easier to see the greater plan for us all. It is fun to see his son grow up with so many of his
fathers traits and qualities. Though your children may not remember him much as they grow older, he will not be forgotten in their lives. Find comfort knowing that Jordan is still with you and will never leave you.
Shelley, I know it is a long hard road ahead for you and the family.
Know you can call on us for an understanding ear and a soft shoulder.
We Love you!!
Kumari and Ty Marshall

Today is Wed

Arlene here:
That is right.
Today is Wednesday.
We have experienced a lifetime of emotions since Sunday.
Could it really only be Wednesday?

Just a week ago...we had our Jordon here.
He was getting ready for a fun fishing trip with his brother and Dad.
Plans were being made, bags packed.
Excitement building.

Shelley was planning to take all the littles to the Hilterbrand reunion.
Oh...we had fun at that reunion.
84 people!
In fact, Shelley wasn't even concerned when she didn't hear from Jordan.
He usually calls.
"I am here getting ready to take off."
"We have landed."
"We are at the Motel."
"How are you Shel?"
"How are the kids?"
"Does Landon feel better?"

But he didn't.
And Shelley wasn't alarmed.
He is okay- she felt. He is okay.
In fact, she really didn't feel like he was all that far away.

Then Sunday night..when Shel returned home and hadn't heard.
Well............we know every dark and scary road her mind went down that evening and that long terrifying night.
Many phone calls made...no, noone had heard from any of them.
What could have happened?
Did they ever even make it to the coast?
What Motel were they to stay in?
Does anyone know?
Oh.
The.
Frantic.
Panic - feelings.
Oh.
NO!
Where are they?

When the sun finally came up on Monday.
Well, you can read some of what happened at the beginning of this blog.
We started the blog as a way to keep all 84 Hilterbrands informed.
A family gathering - circling the wagons - so to speak.
Praying..sitting at the computer - leaving only briefly to drop to our knees in prayer.
Then return to follow and watch.

The blog has grown.
Your tender expressions - have changed the dynamics of this blog.
It is now a source of not just information - but strength and comfort.
Thank you.

The terrifying heartbreaking story has unfolded.
Again - THANK YOU TO THE IDAHO CIVIL AIR PATROL.
Thank you for helping our story to be one that has an end.
We are not still wondering.
We are not....living that hellish feeling of not knowing.
To know is so difficult.
But to not know, well, that would be more difficult.

A tender mercy we feel from our Loving Heavenly Father in this:
Remember...I said Shel didn't feel concern, in fact, Jordan didn't feel all that far away while she was at the reunion.
Well - he wasn't.
In fact, Shel feels that he was with her.
You see, we believe that the body and the spirit are what make the soul of man.
(read more HERE.)
That while alive here on earth - that body and spirit are united.
Much like a hand in a glove.
The glove (body) provides a place for the spirit to dwell while on earth.
Then when someone dies...the body stays here on earth - and in fact, the last gift we often give our loved ones is to care for that precious body and prepare it for burial.
BUT...the spirit. The hand within that glove LIVES ON!

That is why Shel didn't feel panic or alone at the reunion.
Jordan was there.
We believe he was there.
She felt him there.
A sweet tender mercy.
Thank you...Heavenly Father...thank you.

Tuesday, August 11, 2009


Jed Mingo

These two links to share of Jed - were sent to me by Chris Garner.
Click HERE
and HERE

Jordon and his father Ron from Andy Coats


My name is Andy Coats --Jordan, Shelly, and I grew up together. My heart is broken for them and I agree with the post on the blog post that talked about how Jordan is having a hard day today too because he is sad for his wife's loss. That is how Jordan is--he loved Shelly and the kids, they were his motivation. It's a tough day for his friends too. I spoke with Nate Christiansen, Luke Coats, Ryan Jensen, and Austin Mitchell yesterday and we all want to express our heartfelt condolences for the great loss.

I attached a pic of the last time Jordan and I went golfing.
(Ron and he are in the front seat of the front golf cart, Jordan's other close friend Jason Harman is in the background)

Trust Fund

A trust fund has been set up.
Mingo Family Trust fund.
At any Wells Fargo Bank.
The monies will be for Shelley and her three children.
Chantel - 4 years old
Mason - 2 years old
Landon - 3 months old.

Heartfelt thank you

Goes to the:
IDAHO CIVIL AIR PATROL
with Dave Guzman as the commander.
Thank you for your tireless efforts.
Thank you for finding the plane...a 'needle in the haystack'.
Your work as 'search and rescue' was conducted so kindly and professionally in our behalf.
Thank you for working all day - until the job was done.
Thank you for helping us.
Thank you for bringing our 'boys' home.
THANK YOU!
Sincerely,
Shelley Mingo
Bev Harman

Today is a hard day.

Arlene here:
I just talked to Bev.
She said, "Today is a hard day."
Many decisions to make.
Words we don't imagine using when we are in our 20's ...like funeral, memorial service, burial, casket. Those words.
Because it is three men involved.
Because there is much to consider and coordinate - the plans for the 'services' are still pending.

Because our families believe life is eternal.
Because we believe that families are forever.
Because of love and eternal covenants.
Because a prophet of God said these words,
"The veil which separates us from the Spirit world sometimes seems very thin to us..however, surely those who have passed beyond, can see more clearly through the veil back here to us...I believe we move and have our being in the presence of heavenly beings....We are close to our kindred...I claim we live in their presence, they see us, they are solicitous of our welfare, they love us now more than ever."
(Joseph F Smith - Gospel Doctrine pg 429)
Because of these words...we know there is comfort.

BUT - I also....
believe today is a hard day...............on both sides of the veil.
I believe Jordan - Jed - Ron are having a hard day.

Today is a hard day.

What can I do?

Arlene here:
Are you like me..pacing back and forth.
Checking this blog - reading comments.
About 1,687,439 times an hour?
Do you find yourself thinking.
"Oh, what can I do?"
Well - we (her sister and I) have an idea.
Shelley needs some things.
1) Our love
2) Our prayers
And let's be honest, folks - 3)cash.
Yip....she will need some cash to help her over the next bit until she can get her feet back under her.
Now if you are like me, you have this great big heart and are wishing about now - you had won the Publishers House Sweepstakes (we don't do lottery, ya know).
But if it is true that many hands make light work, it is also true, many dollars add up to lots of dollars.
If you would like to send some cash to Shelley.
Here is an easy way to do it.
Log on to PayPal. (If you have an account - if not easy to create one)
Click on the 'send money' tab.
To: shelleymingo@gmail.com
From: (your email address)
Put in your amount.
Click the 'personal' tab.
And then 'gift'.
It is that easy.
(p.s. Those of you that know that Shelley doesn't 'do computers' don't worry, Linzy - Shelleys' sister who is computery will help her move it from the Payapl account to her bank.)
Indeed, many hands make light work....and this is something we can do...it will even last longer than flowers.
Of course, those who would like to send money the traditional way with a card - that works also.

Shelley this is Grandma

My dear Shelley, My heart aches for you. It aches for Regina too. Let me tell you it is the hardest thing you have face. The Lord is with you. I can't imagine how I would have faced this sorrow at your age. This is hard on your whole family. It seems you are in a trance for a while, but it will pass and the Lord will take the sting. Even if Jordan is gone from this earth you will have him watching over you and those sweet little kids. I am so sorry for you, but the Lord will bless you and He will try to take the sorrow from you. Be sure to contact the Social Security. They will help you finacially and help you with finance for the kids, You have lost your very very best friend. I am crying for you. Love you .gma

Jed Mingo

Jed is Jordans' brother.
He was the pilot of the plane.
Read or add comments from Jed's friends here.

This evening

Arlene here...Amy just called as she left Shelleys.
(I know that the Mingos are also reading this blog..which is wonderful. If you would like me to post anything please email me and let this be a forum for your family - are hearts are tender for you, also.))
arlenemccomas@gmail.com

Bev - Shels Mom - is with Shel as is her sister Jenni and brother in law Heber.
Jordans sister is watching Chantel and Mason.
Rees - Wade and Amy - Shels cousins have been with her.
(Amy commented to me that she felt such strength from these men cousins, Rees was in a white shirt and tie....it just seemed to represent Priesthood Power.)

Very supportive and helpful.
When Amy arrived some relatives that live close by from Gary Morgans family were there rocking the baby, Landon, to sleep and giving neck massages to Shel.
Very kind. Very comforting.

Ryan, Shelleys twin brother has been working in Florida and is on plane coming to Shelley. He will arrive on Tuesday around noon.
Shelleys' father, Gary, and brother Jared - are enroute from Colorado.

Shelley is reading and re-reading every comment and studying every picture on this blog.
She is so grateful.
Any of you that know Shel know, she isn't so much for computers - never even checks her email - but she has treasured every comment that has been posted and is finding great strengthen and support from you. THANK YOU.

This is a wonderful place to share memories or pictures. In additon to any comments you would like to share - if you have pictures you would like to have posted - please email them to me and I will post them.
arlenemccomas@gmail.com

When decisions are made about the funeral - this will be where it is shared, so check back.

Okay...now this.
Amy, Shelleys cousin, and our daughter called as she left Shelleys.
She said this:
"Shelley is amazing. She knows she is in shock but I am amazed at the clarity and strength she has...you can tell...she has angels about her helping her."
"She just seems to have a sense of peace and direction."
"She is amazing Mom....she is amazing."

Monday, August 10, 2009

some of the latest pictures... (thanks jodi)








the ground crew made it to the site and have found their 3 bodies. shelley is in shock. my mom is going to lehi to be with her. shelley's bishopric gave her a blessing... all about decisions, eternity, etc.

we love you shell. we are confident that you will raise those kids the way jordan would want you to raise them. i love you. if anyone can get through this, it is you. you are my strength. i love you.

News update

Here

Jordan we love and will miss you so much!!!



Shelley and Regina and family,

I'm so sorry about Jordan, Jed and Ron!

I love you Shell!!

Shelley We Love You:

Julia and I are prayer for your comfort. All of Julia's family is praying for your comfort. Many of my friends are praying for your comfort. We are with you in this hard time. We love you!

--Cody & Julia McComas

Word from Jared

Flew past crash site and they saw people on the ground. He felt like they were handling it good and so they are coming home. Just waiting for the confirmation that it was their plane. Jared said that the authorities with all the info. that they had they were pretty sure it was theirs.

Indeed

OUR FUTURE IS AS BRIGHT AS OUR FAITH

Shelly hugs

Amy said that Shelly is indeed reading this blog and the comments.
You can send 'comment hugs' here and she will read them.

Bev is on her way

To be with Shell.
The Civil Air rescue said they would call Bev about 7.

What to pray for...?

Amy called.
Just took supper to Shelly.
Bishop is there.
Shelly received Priesthood blessing.
Pray for Shelly - Regina and the Mingo family.

Doesn't look good

Arlene here...
Civil Air Patrol called Bev.
High probability this wreckage is the Mingo plane.
Very remote.
Very hot.
Appears - crashed into side of mountain.
Sheriff trying to get in to confirm.
Two hours of daylight left.
Will just try to confirm wreckage tonight.
Go in tomorrow to find...if anyone survived.

Sorry for brief update..I am having a hard time seeing through my tears.

update

This is Arlene.
I just talked to Bev.
A Mr Guzman with the rescue efforts said he didn't know where the news was getting their information but they are trying to get to the wreckage.
Foot or helicopter.
Plane was found at 3:15 and he thought it would be at least a couple hours.
Sarah Ruiz (a sister-in-law to Jordan) is in Homedale. Justin (her husband) took "the rescuers" some soda. The "rescuers" were going back up in the air to try to locate them.

Update on Channel 7 News, click here.

However, the News is not always correct. Bev talked to the Commander of Idaho Civil Air Patrol and they do have searchers lookin on ground and air to see if this is their plane.

PLANE FOUND!

click here to read the updated article.
if they were to DRIVE, this would be the route they would take
driving route
since they are flying, they fly over "john day."

Take Off!

The "rescuers" (Jared T. Doyle, Dallen and Kyle) are taking off in the airplane!
They are leaving RIGHT NOW and it will take at least 3 hours.
They are headed to that 100 mile place that Jamie had her intuition...

Another update

Just talked to Jared and they haven't left yet from Idaho Falls airport they are collecting as much info before they take off. Jake, Jed's friend is in contact with Jared and Doyle he is also flying in his plane to help look. Jared said that it will be 3-4 hours to get their so that's 6:30ish not much time to look, so let's pray for the searchers that they will have enough time to look. Pray that they will find them before dark.

thanks from shell

I am a believer!!!! thanks for the prayers we can feel them!!! I am so grateful for our Heavenly Father I know he will give them the strength to make it home.... WE are praying to find them before dark!!!!!! thanks so much thanks for everything......love shell

Update on Airplane

Doyle Beck, Jared, Dallen and Kyle (Jared's brother) are all going in the airplane. Jared said that the radar tower told them where they dropped them, (I didn't quite understand exactly how they got the info but nevertheless that is where they are going to look first. They are leaving right now. I told Jared there is a special request from the family to look where Jamie said she thought they were, even if the search and rescue have already looked there. Jared said that they would look. Love you guys and our prayers are with you Shelley and Mingos

more news articles

click here

http://www.2news.tv/news/52893512.html


and here

http://www.idahostatesman.com/newsupdates/story/861342.html

we believe in MIRACLES

Miracles defy full definition, they are the manifestation of the power of God in the lives of men...Miracles are part of the gospel of Jesus Christ. They are ONE OF THE CHIEF characteristics of true believers...God is a God of miracles; everlastingly, always and without exception, he performs miracles among his people...and because he is the same yesterday, today and forever, miracles are always found among those who have faith.
(Mortal Messiah - vol 1 by Bruce R McConkie)
Doctrine and Covenants 35:8 For I am God, and mine arm is not shortened; and I will show miracles, signs, and wonders, unto all those who believe on my name.

Faith in the Lord Jesus Christ is a conviction and trust that God knows us and loves us and will hear our prayers and answer them with what is best for us.
jared t., dallen and doyle beck are AT THE AIRPORT waiting to find out whether to take the helicopter or airplane...
Click here to read the news..about missing plane.
Linzy - the local station in Ilwaco wants information.
The contact is: Michael 503.861.6627
Could you please have someone that knows more details than I do....call them.
Arlene

on the news

Carol - married to a Mingo just said that the missing plane is being reported on the Boise News. This is good. We need every eye and ear.

just talked to shell

i just talked to shell. she is feeling at peace. her and regina (jordan's mom) just feel like everything is okay.... "that is what we are holding onto right now." shell said...
feel free to post comments (words of encouragement) to shelley and the mingos.
jamie (jordan's sister), her feelings are....
they are 100 miles preceding john day airport.
jed is on foot and has been for 2 days, since saturday.
jordan's dad has hurt his leg and jordan is staying with them.
they have enough food.
just need water.
jordan's grandpa (who has passed on) and angels are with them...

PRAY.... the search and rescue will believe us.... (they asked bud if bev was a psychic.)

a talk with shelley

i talked to shelley this morning around 9. she said a little prayer... to know if he was going to be okay.. or what... shortly after, she found jordan's cell phone.

the lord is in charge
he is watching over the 3 mingos.
heber gave shelley a blessing

update 10:56am monday

3 men left jerome airport 11am flight
ron called the hotel to reserve a room (a week before)
should have been there to the hotel by 3pm
they were to call the hotel when they landed for the hotel to come pick them up
at 11:30pm hotel called ron's cell and couldn't get through
they were supposed to be to work today (monday)
FAA Federal Aviation Administration is looking for them

What we know

Jordan Mingo
Jed Mingo
Ron Mingo
Were to go fishing in Washington State.
Left Burley Idaho Friday August 7th.
Were to return Saturday August 9th.
No family member has heard anything since they left.
Help us know.
What can we do to find them?